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Yes I am an Optimist and No, I am Not Delusional

I come across a lot of things online that portray optimism like it is absolute delusion. People who function like that are referred to as Pollyannas, and I absolutely can’t stand that optimists and Pollyannas get lumped together into one category.

Y’all, I am not here to live in a purely positive bubble, devoid of all things unpleasant and negative. You can’t have light without the dark. Balance in life is necessary and a life with absolutely no negativity would frankly feel weird.

Optimism is defined as “hopefulness and confidence about the future or successful outcome of something.” In his book Learned Optimism, Martin Seligman outlines how optimists are fundamentally different from pessimists:

Pessimists see situations as permanent, personal, and pervasive, while optimists see situations as temporary, situational, and specific.

Optimism is not a dreamlike delusion- it’s a way of framing what happens to you that keeps it from being unbearable, inescapable, and crushing. I’ve been a full fledged pessimist, and I adopted optimism when I was 23. I can tell you first hand that pessimism will not help you grow, change, or connect to your full potential.

There are a lot of studies that detail the effects of employing learned optimism or a more positive way of thinking (here, here, or here for starters) and the results are striking: better health, less stress, a stronger immune system, more gratitude, and these people would say they are happy. They may even live longer.

So, like they say in Monty Python, “Always look on the bright side of life.” The bright side. Yes, there is and always will be a dark side of life *Darth Vader breathing* You can and will look in on the dark stuff occasionally, but if you can remember that there is always an unlimited amount of hope and that you can keep it in your heart, you’ll be okay.

Life is full of ups and downs, good and bad, tragic and inspiring, amazing and devastating- but you get to decide were your mind goes, and you can choose your mood.

Life’s too short to spend it in the dark.

-You can and will look in on the dark stuff occasionally. But if you can remember that there is always an unlimited amount of hope and that you can keep it in your heart, you'll be okay.- - Found on Jseeksjoy.com

If you’re interested in learning more about optimism and pessimism, I INSIST that you get your mits on a copy of Learned Optimism ASAP.

Monthly Mindfulness Roundup - August 2016 - JSeeksJoy.com

Monthly Mindfulness Roundup – August

Welcome to the first post in a new monthly series where I share with you photos of the things I’ve noticed trying to be more mindful! Mindfulness is really important to me and I try to consciously notice what’s around me. It helps me remember to stay present, not fiddling around in the past or the future.

This month I’ve been listening to Daring Greatly by Brene Brown on my mindfulness walks and it’s been an awesome refresher. I loved it the first time around and I’m really loving it again. Continue reading

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Let’s talk about stress, baby

I recently came across this video in my internet travels:

Stress is not glamorous.

Back when I was working retail, I was the most stressed I have ever been for every reason you can fathom, including not being able to find a job that required my master’s degree. (Pity party of one, please?) I gained 20 pounds, I had trouble sleeping, I was irritable and grumpy AF, and I had periods of severe depression and anxiety. Continue reading

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So I Have This Thing With Music

And I always have. Before I was speaking full sentences I was singing along with Paula Abdul in the back of my parents car. Which was released before I was a year old.

As I got older, I decided to play music. I started with the keyboard my grandparents gave me, and in fourth grade I joined the band and played the flute. I was pretty exceptional at the flute, and I always played with the older kids in band because it just came naturally to me. I quit after middle school because I was not going to be in marching band. So, I could have probably been a really kick ass flute player, buuut that’s what happens when you let 14 year olds decide their fate. Continue reading