This book could not have entered my life at a better time. Jia Jiang, on a mission to rejection-proof himself, set out on 100 days of rejection, purposely trying to get rejected. Sounds a little bit like a few nightmares I’ve had… He bravely filmed these encounters, and posted them to his blog Fearbuster.com.
He says, “I am going through 100 days of Rejection Therapy, aiming to make 100 crazy requests to get rejected. My goal is to desensitize myself from the pain of rejection and overcome my fear. Feel free to send me ideas and suggestions. Three criteria I set for myself: 1. Ethical (no lying or marriage-undermining) 2. Legal 3. Doesn’t defy the law of physics.”
I thought the premise was a little cheesy at first, but I was relieved when he started to not only explain why his rejection attempts were successful or not, but talked about the psychology of rejection and why it hurts so much. Best of all, he teaches you how to fully rejection-proof yourself if you’re willing to get a little uncomfortable.
To give a small spoiler: The key to successfully being rejected without ruining your life is in how you view it. You can take it personally, believe you’re not good enough or worthy of anything, and take all measures necessary to ensure you never get rejected again. (This is me in a nutshell.)
The better way to look at rejection is to realize that it is personal, but it says more about the other person than it says about you; it should not be used to gauge truths about yourself or your merit; and eventually, the nos will becomes yeses if you try enough times with enough different people.
His rejection toolbox is the most valuable thing I’ve come across in a while. I want to hang it in my house so it’s always there to remind me. It’s really that good.
So should you read it? YES. This book is funny, poignant, and best of all, it gives you the tools you need to stop letting fear of rejection rule your life and to put yourself out there, come hell or high water. There are way more gold nuggets of information in this book (aside from the paragraphs above) and I would highly recommend this book to anyone who has ever experienced fear before. So… Everyone.