J Reads: Delirium by Lauren Oliver

Oh Delirium, you were the perfect dystopian YA escape from life. What piqued my interest about this series is the idea that love is a disease that will kill you, and a government that goes to very great lengths to prevent it, with a mandatory procedure  at age 18 ‘curing’ everyone, after which they’re paired with people to be married. The main character, Lena, finds herself questioning everything about the country she calls home and it’s a thrilling adventure from there. There are no gay or lesbian people in this world apparently, which I just realized. Hm. Anyway. Continue reading

J Reads: Rejection Proof by Jia Jiang

J reads: #RejectionProof by #JiaJiang #BookReview #Rejection #SelfImprovement via J Seeks JoyI picked this book up on a whim at the library. That’s actually how I come across most books in my life!

This book could not have entered my life at a better time. Jia Jiang, on a mission to rejection-proof himself, set out on 100 days of rejection, purposely trying to get rejected. Sounds a little bit like a few nightmares I’ve had… He bravely filmed these encounters, and posted them to his blog Fearbuster.com.

He says, “I am going through 100 days of Rejection Therapy, aiming to make 100 crazy requests to get rejected. My goal is to desensitize myself from the pain of rejection and overcome my fear. Feel free to send me ideas and suggestions. Three criteria I set for myself: 1. Ethical (no lying or marriage-undermining) 2. Legal 3. Doesn’t defy the law of physics.”

I thought the premise was a little cheesy at first, but I was relieved when he started to not only explain why his rejection  attempts were successful or not, but talked about the psychology of rejection and why it hurts so much. Best of all, he teaches you how to fully rejection-proof yourself if you’re willing to get a little uncomfortable.

To give a small spoiler: The key to successfully being rejected without ruining your life is in how you view it. You can take it personally, believe you’re not good enough or worthy of anything, and take all measures necessary to ensure you never get rejected again. (This is me in a nutshell.)

The better way to look at rejection is to realize that it is personal, but it says more about the other person than it says about you; it should not be used to gauge truths about yourself or your merit; and eventually, the nos will becomes yeses if you try enough times with enough different people.

His rejection toolbox is the most valuable thing I’ve come across in a while. I want to hang it in my house so it’s always there to remind me. It’s really that good.

So should you read it? YES. This book is funny, poignant, and best of all, it gives you the tools you need to stop letting fear of rejection rule your life and to put yourself out there, come hell or high water. There are way more gold nuggets of information in this book (aside from the paragraphs above) and I would highly recommend this book to anyone who has ever experienced fear before. So… Everyone.

My Job Hunting Notes from the Book ‘Use Your Head To Get Your Foot In the Door’

This is a summary of my personal notes after reading Use Your Head To Get Your Foot In The Door: Job Search Secrets No One Else Will Tell You by Harvey Mackay. While this book is slightly directed at those looking to get into business positions, it’s still filled with many job hunting gems that are worth noting. If you’re currently looking for a job, are unhappy in your current position, or are in a position to help others secure a job, I would recommend giving this book a read. The chapters are short and to the point so it reads pretty quickly. I’ve linked to a few of Mackay’s resources from his website which could prove to be really helpful if utilized correctly! If any of these notes seem to be a bit vague, it’s because there’s a good bit of information in the book that wouldn’t fit here in a quick quip.

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