I’ve been MIA. And by MIA, I mean writing my buns off

It’s been a while since I wrote about what I’m doing, so an update is definitely in order!

I’m thrilled to announce that as of September 22, I am officially a Contributor for Bankable by Forbes. What does that mean? It means that I’ll be writing steadily about millennials and career stuff.  I’ve been having the time of my life thinking of things to write about and I’ve published two pieces so far.

First, I wrote about the concept of wanting to love your job. A lot of folks these days are working a job that brings them nothing but a steady paycheck, and I believe that if your job is grating your soul and you want to love your job, you should find a job you love. You can read the entire piece here.

Next, I wrote about the American dream. The American dream is a fantasy of a concept and I argue that instead of idolizing the American dream, we should be focusing on something much larger: our legacy.  Read more about it here.

Last but SO not least, I had a piece published in Holl + Lane magazine’s most current issue. I got married back in May and I’ve had a hell of a time wrapping my head about the idea of marriage and what it takes (or even means) to stay contently married. You can order a digital or print copy of the magazine here. If you aren’t familiar with Holl + Lane you are so missing out. It’s a collection of heart wrenching, vulnerable, real life stories written by women. You won’t find airbrushed images or dating/parenting/cleaning advice in here. At Holl + Lane they get DEEP and in the most wonderful way. I read this magazine and I immediately feel so much more normal.


Now that I’ve taken time to reflect back on 2016, it’s time to look ahead. If I think about my goals for 2016, they were a bit too lofty. So in the name of practicality, I’m keeping it simple this year.

  • Read 52 books. This is totally doable for me. HERE WE GO. Tell me what books you loved reading recently.
  • Practice gratitude. I always talk about this but I struggle with it so. I’m starting out with one thing a day, and if I have more, so be it.
  • Meditate. I go hot and cold with meditating, it’s true. But I do find great value in it. I’m starting with 10 minutes a day.
  • Write a book. My book on underemployment to be exact. I’ve already pitched the idea to an agent, so we’ll see if it has legs after I submit my proposal. *eeeeeeeeek*
  • Fitness. I truly don’t enjoy exercise. I’m lazy or… whatever. But I also know that it’s good for you and ultimately gets your creative juices flowing, helps you live longer, and is overall a decent idea for anyone who would like to thrive in life. Soooo… any ideas welcome.
  • Dabble in creativity. This is another thing that’s good for your brain and overall well being. As long as I can remember that it does not need to be perfect, whatever it is. I keep talking about water color painting. Maybe it’s finally time to take a stab at it!
  • Send more snail mail. I like to get real mail and send real mail. I’m slightly obsessed with fun stamps… Send me your address! I pinky promise not to sell your information or stalk you or any off the wall thing like that :)

What are you doing this year? Anything good?


    2016: A Year in Review

    2016 was one hell of a frigging ride. Here’s the cliff’s notes version of my year.

    • Finally got a big girl job with things like retirement, vacation/sick time, and health insurance
    • Ended my years long job search for a position in higher ed (I’ll stop whining now, I promise)
    • Starting making ends meet (halle-fricking-llujah)
    • Tried Zumba
    • Three funerals, four losses. Can we talk about this for a minute? FOUR LOSSES IN A YEAR IS TOO DAMN MANY, OKAY??
    • One wedding
    • Gained a step-mom! My “family” has grown so much over the past 8 years. If you’re a part of that expansion, whether you’re on Mack’s side or my side, know that I love you <3
    • Stepped into a Catholic church and did not immediately catch on fire (it took about ten minutes)
    • Did my first podcast!
    • Stopped drinking coffee (too much anxiety up in here)
    • Presented at an annual, national conference in front of about ~60 strangers
    • Got horrifying stage fright and one hell of a vulnerability hangover
    • Vowed to get better at public speaking
    • Got another dog named Pippa (though something  like Gollum is more fitting). But boy is she cute!
    • Traveled to:
      • Jacksonville, FL
      • Maidens, VA
      • Atlanta, GA
    • Pitched my book idea to an agent
    • Decided to actually write the book no matter what
    • Reunited with a long lost friend
    • Made new friends
    • Read oodles of books – 48 to be exact!
    • Bought a house- we close sometimes this month (hopefully (the date has been pushed (but it’s not our fault))).

    I’m late to the 2016 reflection party, but life happens. Stay tuned for a post outlining my goals for 2017!

    It’s been a while

    Three months to be exact.

    Two days after my last post, something happened. After that, everything I was planning on saying seemed so unimportant and empty and trivial.

    I still feel like that, but here I am anyway,

    If there’s possibly a silver lining (and I’m still not sure there is) it’s that it’s given us a lot to think about.

    We’ve been talking about buying a house, but we didn’t get serious until this happened. I’ve been talking about writing a book, but I didn’t get serious until this happened. I’ve been avoiding dealing with some (quite frankly) emotional baggage, but I didn’t get serious until this happened.

    One day at a time, I am –  we are –  figuring things out.